I know that I am not the only person who enjoys receiving presents. We typically anticipate reciprocation when we give gifts to others, you know? If you still struggle with the fact that you always give gifts to other people but never receive any yourself, I understand. Sometimes it stings because you expect something from the individuals to whom you give gifts, especially since they are the ones closest to you and you are always around them.
Although I have brought it up with God, I still struggle with it personally. Giving gifts to people comes naturally to me, but for the most part I have received nothing in return. I may occasionally give someone a small token of encouragement, but I can honestly say that I have never received anything in return. Is it painful? Definitely. When I and someone dear to me decided on our birthday gifts together, it hurt even more. I went above and beyond for them, but despite it being my birthday in January, I still have not received anything. They hurt my feelings by not buying anything for me, yet they did for their friends. How did I respond to it? I kept quiet about it.
I am not suggesting that any of you keep silent about this. I am not the confrontational type, therefore it is taking me some confidence to bring it up with her. As I mentioned, I prayed about it and received this answer from God.
I Bless You So You Bless Others
I have learned from God that we should not treat things as though we are entitled to them. We do not earn God’s blessings; He gives them to us because He is a good God. Why can you, whom God has blessed, demand anything in return for what you give to others? What justifies rewarding good deeds?
If you do not take pleasure in giving others gifts out of a pure heart, are you attempting to emulate Christ? Giving with a pure heart means giving without any expectation of receiving anything in return or expecting any recognition or praise for your giving.
We need to repent of this and start doing things God's way. Do you want to do things God's way?
Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God. – Hebrews 14:16
So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver. - 2 Corinthians 9:7
Here are some tips on how to give to others with a pure and kind heart:
Give from a place of love and compassion: When you give, focus on the sense of love and compassion for the recipient. Make your decision to give based on how your gift can make the other person's life or situation better.
Be altruistic: Give selflessly without any expectation of receiving anything in return. The joy of giving comes from knowing that you have been able to help someone.
Be empathetic: Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand their needs, wants, and struggles. This will help you to give more meaningfully and ensure that your gift is practical and useful.
Give in a way that benefits others: Consider the recipient's needs and interests when giving and try to give in a way that will have a positive and meaningful impact on their lives. Think about how your gift can make their life better, easier, or more enjoyable.
Be humble: Do not boast about your giving or let your ego get in the way. Remember, it is not about you, it is about the receiver. Accept their gratitude graciously, but without seeking any recognition or acknowledgement.
By following these tips, you can give to others with a pure heart and enjoy the joy that comes from helping and making a positive impact on someone's life.
A man’s gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men. - Proverbs 18:16
